How to attract people?

How to attract people?

Are you a person who can easily win people’s hearts? Do people enjoy being around you? Do people find you approachable?

The ability to win people’s hearts is a skill that successful people have. They are able to attract people to them without effort as if it is some kind of magic.

Have you ever met someone who seldom smiles? What did you think of that person? Did you have a close rapport?

Studies show that a sincere smile has a powerful affect in winning people‘s hearts. When you sincerely smile at someone, that sends a message to others that you like them and appreciate their company and that creates an ambience of friendship between people. Smiling at people is the key to winning people’s hearts as people have enough problems and do not want to deal with someone who has problems and always complains.

Once upon a time there was a guy who rarely smiles and very serious in life. His wife and colleagues always complain that he never smiles. All of his colleagues began to turn away from him as he is not approachable and seldom smiles. Then, one of his closest friends asked him if he knows the reason why everyone goes away from him. The guy said he does not know. Then, his friend told him the main reason no one talks to him is because he rarely smiles and that people find him unapproachable. People like to be around people who smile and ease their difficulties. Afterwards, the man started to smile to everyone he meets and after a short time, people started to talk to him and enjoy being with him.

Can you see what the power of smiling can do?

Keys to a beautiful smile

1. When you smile, try to mean it. Let the smile come out of your heart.
2. Strive to make your smile have a meaning.

Of course, you are not going to have a smile on your face all day long, otherwise you will look like a clown. However, smiling when you run into a friend, colleague, or someone , make things much easier and make people find you more friendly and approachable.

Are YOU ready for LOVE?

Hi, this is Lexie Moon and Elmasue Zylberberg and we are going to be discussing You-getting ready for love.

We all want to manifest perfect love and our soulmate. We dream of spending the rest of our lives with that perfect partner.

There are many programs out there that promise to help you find your soulmate or the love of your life and they are some wonderful programs…but if you are not ready for love then you won’t manifest your perfect partner from one of these "attract your soulmate" courses.

Real quick before we get going, I want to define what a soulmate is. Arielle Ford shared in her book The Soulmate Secret

"I believe a soulmate is someone with whom you share a deep and profound connection and feel that you can completely be yourself. Someone you love unconditionally, and who loves you unconditionally, and when you look into their eyes you have the experience of being at “home.”

So many people think that there’s this one perfect soulmate out there for you. That there's only one person out there who is your soulmate. I personally don’t believe that. This process is not about that type of thinking. When you think that there’s only one person, one soul, then it’s really limiting the universe and there are no limitations in the universe. There are no limits as to what the universe can provide. There are many, many souls out there that you could have as a potential partner and have a wonderful life with. Here is what we mean when we say the word soulmate- a soulmate is someone with whom you can share a deep and profound connection and feel that you can be completely yourself with. It’s someone you love unconditionally and they love you unconditionally

In the movie, Shall We Dance starring Richard Gere and Susan Sarandon there is this scene where Susan Sarandon's character is describing why she loves being married to her soulmate and she says “We need a witness to our lives. There are a billion people on the planet….I mean, what does any ONE life really mean? But in a marriage you are promising to care about everything-the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things-all of it, all the time, every day. You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.” mmmm, I love that.

So where is your soulmate? Ah… the question we’re all waiting for the answer to. It’s really very simple when we look at the law of attaraction hich works for everyone all the time without fail then we know that if you are not already in a deep, romantic, passionate, loving relationship it is because you are not in alignment with having that ideal relationship. so we’re going to discuss some reasons why you might be standing in your own way and what you can do to start shifting yourself into alignment.

The premise we are working with is based on the law of arttarction nd of course all universal laws. So in order for you to attract your ideal partner, your soulmate, you need to become what you want to attract. If you are feeling lonely, you cannot attract connection. It totally defies law.

What’s the first thing you can do to find out if you are ready for love. Well, that’s easier than you think. Simply ask yourself why haven’t I attracted my perfect partner yet? Whatever answers start coming up for you are some of your reasons. Here’s another good question to ask yourself-If my perfect lover knocked on my door right now-Am I Ready? And if not why not?

Whatever is coming up for you is your first clue as to where your resistance is. Some of you might be like “I don’t know” I’m such a hot and sexy catch, I don’t know what the problem is.” And that’s ok too. You have resistance and limiting beliefs that are preventing you from manifesting this relationship now. The key is to discover these beliefs and work to change them, to prepare you for love in every way. Maybe some of you already know what’s been holding you back, and how awesome is that? That’s half the journey.

when we start asking ourselves the hard questions we begin to realize the reasons why we haven’t manifested love yet. And acknowledgment is very powerful.law of attraction likes attract likes. To really explain what that means, we are all vibrational beings, energetic beings and we emit energy through our feelings. So whatever energy, feelings we are sending out are drawn back to us like we are a huge magnet. So we attract what we are. Did you hear that? We Attract what we are! We actually have to become the thing we want to attract. Matching vibrations. So one way to begin to determine if you are ready for love is to make a list of all the qualities you are looking for in the love of your life. And you really want to get very specific with this. And pay attention to what if anything is coming up for you as you make your list. You can really pick up some key insights here. The next thing you would do is list all of the qualities you want to bring to the relationship. Really being honest, no one will see your list but you. It’s safe to be 100% honest with yourself. Then the last step is to look over your list and ask yourself “what qualities do I still need to develop to become the partner I want to be? What behaviors and patterns must I let go of?

We have to let go of something old or something that’s not serving us to make room for something new. So what does this really mean? It means you’ve got to shake things up. You’ve got to let go of behaviors and patterns that don’t serve you to allow for new behaviors and patterns. So for example “I’ll meet my perfect guy when I lose this last 10lbs.” If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that one or had a similar thought myself, I'd be rich! but the fact is that with this kind of thinking we are keeping our lover from coming in. You are saying to the universe I’m not ready yet. I’m not good enough now and the universe always listens and delivers. And I’ve got some news for you. If the love of your life is going to stop loving you if you gain 10lbs, is that person really who you are looking for? You want someone who is going to love you unconditionally. Oh wait a second, how can you attract someone who loves you unconditionally when you don’t even love yourself unconditionally. Maybe if you lost that last 10lbs, or if you had a better job or lived in a nicer house…you get the idea. So the next step really is to learn to love yourself as you are right now.

Types of Care Available to Those Who Are Dying

here are two types of care available to those that are dying - palliative and hospice. Even though the terms are sometimes used interchangeably, there is a distinction between the two.

Palliative care is a form of medical treatment focused on reducing the severity of disease symptoms (such as pain) or slowing the disease's progress, rather than providing a cure. This type of care is typically provided by a team of medical professionals at a medical facility, such as a hospital or nursing home. The goals include making the person as comfortable as possible and addressing quality of life needs (in physical, psychological, and spiritual realms) in the time remaining. Palliative care can be delivered at any point during an illness and for an extended period of time as necessary.

Hospice care in the United States is a specific form of palliative care limited to the last six months of life (determined by a doctor's diagnosis). Hospice care is offered 24 hours a day, and can be provided at an individual's home, a hospice care facility, or a hospital/nursing home.

The focus of hospice care is to provide pain management and medical care, emotional support, and spiritual counseling for the dying patient, and similar emotional and spiritual help and support for family members. Counseling about death, dying, and the grief process; facilitation of making amends and closure; respite care for family caregivers; and bereavement groups and support are some of the services typically provided by hospice. Hospice teams typically include medical doctors, nurses, social workers, psychologists, nursing assistants, trained volunteers, and spiritual advisors.

Hospice care is sometimes covered by private medical insurance and sometimes not covered. However, Medicare will generally pay for hospice services once a doctor has determined that a person has less than six months to live. Out of pocket (not covered by insurance) hospice services generally cost several hundred dollars. Therefore, it is important to be aware of what your private insurance covers and doesn't cover, and plan ahead while still healthy for the possibility that you may one day require hospice services.

Unfortunately, some people do not receive hospice or palliative care before dying. Still others are referred when they are too sick to realize the full benefits of available hospice services. In some cases, a doctor is at fault; he or she may be reluctant to refer a patient because it can be difficult for health care providers to admit that there are no other options for curing a particular condition. Other times, as is sometimes the case with 'macho' men; patients and caregivers may view these types of care as giving up, a "cop-out", or "unmanly". Such attitudes are wrong-headed, of course.

Choosing hospice or palliative care is most decidedly not about "giving up". Instead, choosing palliative or hospice care is a practical, reasonable and very effective method of ensuring that your last days will be as good as they can be. While death may be inevitable, unbearable pain and extreme discomfort does not have to accompany the process. A person who has the foresight and strength to ask for support and care is not a "wimp," but instead a strong and intelligent person who wants to obtain the best care for himself or herself and family during the time he or she has remaining.

A Wild Woman Dies Well

On Tuesday evening, April 11, 2006, at 9:45 p.m., Sally Giovine-Kerr took her last breath. Sally was the mother of my longtime partner, John Giovine, and she was also my friend. I called her my "mother-in-spirit" not only because she was John's mother, but also because she gave me unconditional maternal love in ways I'd never known before.

Sally had come back home on Friday April 7, following a brief hospitalization for evaluation (she had pulmonary fibrosis, along with other medical conditions). When she was discharged that Friday, Sally was aware—as were we—that she was coming home to die.

At that point, she was no longer eating or drinking, and she was supported only by oxygen and by occasional moisture to her lips. Once Sally was back home, she was under the care of wonderful hospice workers, who visited daily and offered advice as needed. With 24/7 support from family, friends, and neighbors, Sally surrendered to the "receiving" position with grace, allowing us to give to her, just as she had so generously given to us over the years. She was 82.

During the course of her last five days, people came and went at all hours to Dolphin House (the family compound) on Portage Bay in Seattle, which had its usual open door policy. Sally was known for her willingness to "be there" for people any hour of the day or night. With the exception of a few brief periods when we shooed people out so she could have a a break from visitors, Sally was available to everyone even during her dying process.

Sally was a big believer in inclusiveness. Family members and friends alike were welcome in her life no matter what was going on between them. For me personally, this was one of Sally's greatest gifts to me as my "mother in spirit." Even when we went toe-to-toe about something, and even if we were mad at each other over some silliness, I knew that Sally still loved me and that I was always welcome and accepted, no matter what. This kind of unconditional love was new for me in family life, and it was precious beyond compare.

During Sally's final days at home, there was music and storytelling, abundant affection, and plenty of food (hey, it was the Giovine-Kerr clan after all!). There was also a big homemade altar on the dinner table in the living room where Sally lay on her hospital bed. The altar was a group endeavor created and recreated each day by those who came to visit. There were beautiful bouquets of flowers, personal mementos and old photographs, a blank book so people could write stories about Sally, and a big, bosomy, golden goddess statue presiding over all.

There was laughter and tears, lots of reminiscing between people who hadn't seen each other in years, and a healthy dose of family politics—about this decision or that decision, this perception or that perception, this dynamic or that dynamic—just enough to remind us all that death inevitably brings up people's "stuff" for the purpose of healing. And healing there was for many, in spades.

On the night of April 11, I finished up with my regular Tuesday evening counseling client a little after 9:30 p.m. Within ten minutes, John and I left our home in Wallingford to drive down to Dolphin House. When we arrived a few minutes later and opened the door, candles were flickering and there wasn't a dry eye in the house. We knew immediately that Sally had just died. People embraced John and me as we walked through family and friends to see Sally. There were about 15 people there.

One of Sally's closest friends, Ileen (whom John and I adore) said to me as we arrived, "That was fast! We just called you!" I said we hadn't actually gotten the call yet—that we had just come. She nodded with a smile, "You knew."

In all honesty, I confess that John and I didn't consciously know that Sally had died, though I don't doubt that we somehow knew at the soul level. In death as in life, there are no accidents.

Because so many friends and family were present that night, John and I were curious to know who was "on shift" at Sally's bedside when she died. It turned out to be one of her extended family "grandsons," Jesse.

Jesse is one of three exceptional young men who are the sons of the aforementioned woman, Ileen. It may sound strange, but I think people choose—however consciously or unconsciously—who they want to die with. As far as John and I were concerned, Sally could not have chosen better than to be with one of Ileen's sons when she died. Like his brothers, Jesse is a gentle and compassionate man, and he had known Sally since he was born. Jesse considered it an honor to have held Sally's hand as she drew her last breath.

John and I spent a lot of time with Sally that night, caressing her face and stroking her arms, and just hanging out with her. No matter how many times we've both been with people who have died, it never ceases to amaze us how much it seems as if they could just open their eyes and start talking again. Death is so mysterious!

At some point, I asked John if he wanted me to check inshamanically to see if Sally's spirit needed any help. He said yes, so I cradled her head in my hands from where I was sitting behind her. I closed my eyes and bowed my head close to hers on the bed. Immediately my eyes felt hot and my breathing changed to a deep, slow rhythm. At some point, I was overcome with tears that began as a wave of grief and then turned quickly into a feeling of overwhelming ecstasy at the realization—once again—that death is awesome and mysterious and ultimately safe.

When I began tuning in at the spiritual level, letting the room and its inhabitants fade into the background, I saw that Sally's spirit (however that may be conceived) was happy. I could see that she was suddenly able to understand, in death, what she could not understand in life. Most importantly, I saw that she could finally understand why she had suffered the death of her husband (John's father) early in life, why she had lost two daughters in childbirth (five sons survived), and even why she had needed to hold on to her unfinished business about these terrible losses until she died.

I knew that Sally would have loved to hear about my experience of her after death, and I like to think that somehow, in some way, she did know about it. Of course, I have no idea what "actually" happened during my spiritual work with her, and I don't pretend to presume that the messages I got were "true" or "right" or in any way the end of the story. I only know what I experienced, and I know it was a beautiful gift, so I wanted to share it with you. That's all.

When the waves of emotion finally emptied from my body, John brought me a box of Kleenex (always handy at Dolphin House, since Sally had been a counselor and minister for decades). I cleaned up my face, then John and I visited some more with the rest of the group. I love that no one had interrupted my sacred time with Sally, and as far as I could tell, no one seemed to think I'd been doing anything weird. I still have to pinch myself to know I'm not dreaming when I experience this kind of acceptance in a family.

A while later, Bob and John phoned hospice and the funeral home (see resources at end of article) to let them know that Sally had died. Bob told them that he would be keeping Sally's body at home for a 24-hour wake. He wanted people to be able to come and go the next day to say goodbye to her one last time.

Once hospice was informed and the funeral home alerted, John and Bob agreed that one of them would call the funeral home the next night when it was time to have Sally's body delivered to the funeral home for subsequent cremation. The funeral home would also take care of getting the death certificate signed by Sally's doctor before it was filed with the county.

Sally and Bob were longtime members of People's Memorial Association (PMA), a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing low-cost, high-quality end-of-life arrangements (see end of article for more information). As a result of their membership in PMA, we knew that our family would receive respectful, compassionate care—without any of the price-gouging that so often happens within the funeral industry.

John checked with the PMA-contracted funeral home to be sure that those of us who wanted to witness Sally's cremation could do so (they assured us that this is totally okay). While John was asking about this, Bob chimed in in the background, "We want to carry her to the fire ourselves!" I joked back to Bob that we are definitely a "hands on" family!

Next, Bob asked the women who were present to wash Sally's body and prepare it for the wake. There were five women there that night, including me, and we felt honored to be given this task. The men went into the adjoining kitchen, and one of the women held up a sheet for privacy while the rest of us gently bathed Sally's body with washcloths dipped in warm water. We worked seamlessly as a team as if we'd all done this together before. The love we felt for Sally was palpable, and our tenderness toward her body was profound.

We talked to Sally and thanked her for being so wonderful. We all noticed how beautiful she still was, even as an 82-year-old woman who had just suffered through illness and death (because of her pulmonary fibrosis, her final days were not easy, though palliative care made them gentler). We reminisced about Sally skinny dipping in rivers and swimming in her sexy black bathing suit in Portage Bay. I told Sally that she was still a babe! We laughed and talked and wept as we worked.

One of Sally's friends had brought an elegant green kimono for Sally to wear for her wake, so we removed her hospital gown, changed the bedding to fresh sheets, and dressed her in the green kimono. Someone placed a huge yellow daffodil in Sally's hands, which we had gently crossed over her chest. Another woman tucked a baby photo of her youngest granddaughter, Nicole, underneath the daffodil in her hands. The image of crone and infant together was very sweet.

To top off Sally's final "outfit," we brushed her long hair and smoothed it into a bun held together with an Asian-style clasp that looked great with the kimono. Then one of the women added a bright red feather boa around Sally's neck, pronouncing that she was putting it there to honor the wild woman in Sally. It was perfect!

After a couple of hours, people slowly began to disperse one by one, knowing that Bob would have friends and family on the other two floors of the house that night, in case he wanted support. Bob had been such a devoted and tender partner for Sally during her dying process. John and I and several other people thanked him again for his love and support.

John and I came back home a little before midnight, marveling at the beauty and grace of Sally's passing. She was truly a wild woman, even in death.

A Guide to Praising Comments

Have you ever had a comment on one of your poems, and you thought it was just plain out mean, because they pointed out a few mistakes, or suggested something better?
I know I have.
This short article will be a quick guide on how to praise a comment, and the criterian on which it should be praised.
First, everyone has had a in-depth comment from someone, hopefully. Some people may take the comment to be mean, but it may be constructive to your poem! If they suggest things to change, or something along those lines, then change it! Whether it be the flow of the poem, or a phrase; if it helps, change it!
Comments can be very constructive, or very blunt, depending on the commenter. Usually people who have been on the site for a long time tend to give more in depth comments, instead of the quick, "I liked it, 5/5". I like receiving those nice, long, constructive comments. They really help me to fix a poem and make it a lot better.
You should praise a comment if they helped you in any way. If they just suggested a word change, or a change of flow in the poem, praise them! But remember, just because they are a highly ranked member does not mean they need to be praised. They could have platinum all across the board and have won weekly contests, but that has no say in whether you should praise it or not. It all depends on the depth of the comment, and whether it is "praise-worthy."

So there you have it. Praise the comments that give you helpful, constructive criticism. Do not praise the quick one-liners. They don't help you any.

Peace, Love, and Pixie Dust,
Krista

Temptation

My nemesis calls upon me
once again as is her custom,
my mind taken hostage
and emotions turned loose.

Though this foe is unwelcome
I invite her presence nonetheless,
convinced I can befriend her
she slyly laughs at my naivete.

Her ploy unravels slowly at first
luring me into one more tryst,
disarmed by the promise of joy
I succumb to her wicked desires.

I have become my own prisoner
yet I hold the key to my freedom,
but still I give her the power

Evocative

You -

who stood like Night;

-Reassuring-

painted exotic black skies
to cheeks - drunken
by twilight.

and he who whispered
"one should not sleep alone"..

ran fingertips 'cross -
unstable lips..
with breath that felt like
a thousand lady beetles

-drifting-

a flame upon thy neck..


'tween the verge of
-dusk and dawn-


I -

who stood like shadow;

conjured his lips -
to mine.

As the sound of
-bittersweet wind chimes-
devoured sleeping stars;
in dulcet memories.

My scintilla -

- of waking in
the scent of his arms.

Everlasting petrichor.


and he who whispered
"one should not sleep alone."

penned susurrous words
upon my hand;
that night.